Relationship between the male and female gender has been full of all kinds of battles because they seem not to understand each other. Without proper understanding of the unique characteristics of each gender, the battle may continue.
A man is different from a woman. Even though our similarities attract us to each other, we are different and when the right understanding is absent, battle begins. There are few differences between a man and a woman and they need to be revealed to help create room for relational success.
- MEN ARE LOGICAL WHILE WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL.
Men by virtue of their divine wiring tend to think before they feel, while women feel before they think. A lot of women feel that men are too hard and a lot of men think that women are too emotional. These differences were not meant to cause separation but to complement each other. Imagine if the husband and the wife are both hard. One of these if not all is likely to exist at home:
- The home becomes full of tension
- Misunderstanding and quarrels become the order of the day
- Every pure comment is misinterpreted.
- The absence of peaceful coexistence etc
And if it is the other way round i.e both husband and wife are emotional, then who strengthens and consoles who? Who thinks through or trashes out issues without emotional sentiment?
- MEN ARE MOVED BY SIGHT WHILE WOMEN ARE MOVED BY WORDS.
A man is a visual being and moved by what he sees while women are audible being who are moved more by what they hear. Men need discipline with their eyes while women need discipline with their ears.
For the men, it is not all that glitters that is gold. It goes beyond what you physically see. There are so many attractive products with expired/rotten contents. For the women, be a psychologist and see beyond flattering tongues; see beyond sugar-coated mouth; sift words carefully and don’t be easily swept off your feet by vain talks. Watch what you listen to. The eyes and ears are windows to the heart.
- 3. MEN ARE HEADLINERS WHILE WOMEN ARE DETAILERS
Women are more detailed than men. When a man gets the headline of an issue, he is okay but women want the details. When a woman asks the man, “how was your day”, he is most likely to reply with a mono-syllable “fine”. But when a man asks a woman, “how was your day”, she is likely to give detailed account.
Men are often advised to give listening ears to women. This goes a long way to endear women because they naturally always want someone to confide in and empty their hearts to. So, if you are not always there to listen, they may look for other outlets.
- WOMEN TEND TO BE NEATER AND MORE CONSCIOUS OF APPEARANCE THAN MEN.
By virtue of their creation, men are made from the dust while women were made from the rib of man. Men tend to be dusty and less keen about their appearance, while the woman by creation is like a refinement and updated version of the man and so is keener on appearance.
This does not only apply to appearance; also to the kitchen, the bedroom, the wardrobe, the toilet and bathrooms etc. This is however not a justification for dirt (men); and piety i.e. self-righteousness (women)
- MEN FIND FULFILLMENT IN THEIR RELATIOSHIP WITH THEIR JOB/CAREER WHILE WOMEN FIND FULFILLMENT IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN.
No matter how much a man loves his family, he finds fulfillment in his job/career and that is why when he loses his job or has no job, he feels less than a man. The women on the other side do not feel fulfilled until she has her man, no matter how successful she is.
Over the years, men have discovered that no matter how much love the woman professes, without money, it is only a matter of time before the woman begins to complain. So, the man is always keen to acquire wealth in order to satisfy the financial needs of the woman and ultimately the respect of the woman.
Because the woman was originally created from the rib of the man, she is prone to seeking the attention of a man. It makes them feel wanted, important and above all complete. No matter how preoccupied the woman is, it is also a matter of time before she begins to long for a man in her life.
- WOMEN ARE MORE SENSITIVE THAN MEN.
By virtue of being an emotional being, women are more intuitive and sensitive than men; a woman can sense trouble from a mile while a man may never do even if he is sitting next to trouble.
There have been stories of men who failed to listen to their wives opinion and they lived to regret it. Instead of listening to their woman’s opinion, they considered it as “woman talk”.
7. MEN FORGIVE EASILY THAN WOMEN.
By virtue of being emotional being, it makes it more difficult for a woman to forgive more than a man. While a man will easily forgive, a woman will need more grace to let go.
One minute two men quarreled, the next minute, they have started laughing together. They hardly make reference to the quarrels. But when two women quarrel, years later, the grudge may still be there. If they claim they have forgiven, it is most certain they have not forgotten. They make a statement like, “I have forgiven her but I cannot forget it”.
- MEN FORGET EASILY THAN WOMEN.
Majority of women have diaries where events are recorded. While some have physical diaries, others have mental and emotional diaries within them. Due to the tendency to record things in more permanent files, it becomes easy for men to forget more easily than woman.
- WOMEN TALK MORE THAN MOST MEN.
Due to the nature of women by virtue of their creative wiring, they talk more than most men do. What a man can say in one sentence a woman may need one paragraph to fully explain. Did you ever promise a woman a listening ear, then be sure your ears are in for a big task. So long you still show interest in the talk, she continues.
- MEN LONG FOR POSITION AND RESPECT WHILE WOMEN LONG FOR LOVE AND SECURITY.
Most men by virtue of creation want to be respected and honoured while the women long to be loved. God knew this and that is why he said men should love while women should submit. This was to make both parties enjoy relational fulfillment.
The battle of the sexes occurs mainly due to lack of understanding of some of the things shared here. Though the things shared are not exhaustive, neither are they a must in every life, but they are major and vital characteristics that distinguish each gender. Relationship between men and women was not meant to be a battle. Men should do all they can to understand the women to a great extent and vice- versa. I wish you a relational bliss.