A happy new month to you all and welcome to the shortest month of the year.
For close to three decades I have been privileged to lead and share with people about life especially in the area of leadership, finance and relationship, and it has been an adventure.
Relationships are very key in the life of every individual and when people finally get married many other unique issues become vital and need to be taken seriously.
At the top of those issues lie sex and parenting because they are two of the things no one is expected to have outside marriage.
- Sex outside marriage is contrary to the creator’s plan and purpose
- Children outside marriage is contrary to the creator’s plan and purpose
This month of love is a time when a lot of singles mess themselves up with the valentine virus.
- A lot of virgins lose their virginity in February
- A lot of singles get involved in sexual immorality this month
- A lot of couples also get into the trap of infidelity.
Intimacy in marriage is not negotiable for marriage to really be what the creator had in mind when He instituted marriage, because marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not to be endured.
A lot of couples confuse intimacy with sex, the fact that you are having sex in your marriage does not mean that you are experiencing true intimacy, because intimacy is more than sex.
There are three major aspects to intimacy in marriage and they all have to be in place for any marriage to really journey into the place of intimacy.
- Spiritual Intimacy
- Emotional Intimacy
- Sexual Intimacy
Space will not permit me to explain each of them in this write-up but my audio program titled INTIMACY IS MORE THAN SEX is available to give you full details on how to journey into intimacy, gives you tips for Sexual fulfilment in marriage and settle some sexual controversy issues.
You can’t have intimacy in your marriage without having all these three in place because they are intertwined and affect one another. Lack of spiritual intimacy will affect emotional intimacy and lack of emotional intimacy will affect sexual intimacy.
Couples who really want to enjoy the best in their marriage need to make these three aspects of intimacy a priority and work on it consistently and together.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Genesis 2:24-25 | KJV
Three words come out of these verses of the scripture that needs to be noted and understood because they affect intimacy in marriage.
LEAVE – CLEAVE – BECOME
1. LEAVING
To have intimacy in marriage there are people, places, things, mindsets, habits and beliefs that you must leave behind.
2. CLEAVING
To have intimacy in marriage there is the need to realize the value and uniqueness of marriage and cleave to your spouse as the most important person next to God.
3. BECOMING
To have intimacy in marriage is a journey and every couple should make that journey a priority. That journey takes three Ts, it takes TIME, it takes TWO and it takes… go get the audio.
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It is well with you and yours……so keep the dream alive
Olumide Emmanuel